At least that's what I was trying to do, only to find permissions altered and journals deleted. Unexpectedly. It is always sad if someone disappears out of J-land without trace, although there will usually be a story which some will be aware of.
I do not comment all that frequently, but it doesn't mean I don't read. However, people can grant and revoke permissions at their leisure, and I am not going to throw my toys out of my pram over that. At the end of the day, it's everybody's own journal, they can write what they want, and they can allow or disallow anybody to read.
Although I have been with AOL for nearly 3 years, I have so far only met one person face-to-face. A handful of people I could say I know fairly well, through IM and email exchanges. Through journaling you can also come to know someone quite well, but because it is broadly disseminated, the feeling of closeness is not there. Not really.
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You are right, they can allow who they want. But, when I go to visit and am not allowed and am not answered in email, it makes me wonder how really valuable these "friendships" are to people. I would never just block someone from my journal without explanation. I've come to be quite attached to my AOL buddies. YES you included!! LOL!
ReplyDeleteSo it bugs me when someone disappears without a trace. So don't you up and go anywhere Guido!
OH...what happened to the March meeting in SC? Is it still happening? Are you coming to America?
Pam
I am not sure if the SC meeting is still on, there were only a few that were prepared to commit themselves.
ReplyDeleteI agree Guido... which is why I try to do an entry if I can to explain if I will be away... even when I lost power I was able to get the word to someone and asked that they spread the word... I think you did too (thank you again) ....
ReplyDeleteNow I had to laugh at Pam's comment 'coming to America' why did I start singing? LOL
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Hello I wanted to come by and leave you a comment in this entry. It is sad when someone leaves J-Land. I have come to know many many many dear people such as yourself here at J-Land. I also have to tell you that I do e-mail people that I have met and we also send letters to eachother in the mail back and forth which is quite wonderful. I have made friends with many people and its fun getting to know people through J-Land. I love it here and I have come to find friends that I never had before here at J-Land. I have come to feel that you can have a closeness with people here and through e-mail and letters in the mail as well. I think there is a closeness here you just have to tell people that they are appreciated and that you would like to get to know them a little bit more as you read their journals. I have come to know many people through their journals and in their letters so the closeness is there most definitely.
ReplyDeleteWell, I think you can if you try... lol My journal will always be open... to you and all, dear Guido!
ReplyDeletebe well,
Dawn
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/CarpeDiem/
I met a very dear friend throuh her wonderful journal. We have boosted each other's moral up no end when we went through serious health issues, at seperate times. Her's was a stroke. I don't know what I would have done without her at the other end of my computer. She is now like a sister to me and yet we have never met. Her entries and her friendship gave me an interest and a reason to get up each day whilst going through my chemo'. I have tried to warn recent new friends of absences for various reasons since I've started to have an audience of more than one. Its only considerate to let folks know if you wont be around much or at all. One journal seemed to have stopped my permission to read it but it turned out that AOL were messing about. I was very relieved about that. I care about folks I allow into my life and expect them to feel the same as myself; So I pay them the same respect that I would wish to receive too. I'm not capable of spreading myself thinly so have kept my contacts to a minimum so that I can have a quality of good experiences with my new friends.
ReplyDeletePeople have gone private lately and haven't added all their readers to their new journal. I'm hoping to meet a couple of J-Land friends this year. It's always nice to meet new friends. Maybe we'll get along, maybe not but you never know do you?! Jeanentte xx http://journals.aol.co.uk/jlocorriere05/Welcometomytravels/
ReplyDeleteWell, I feel close to you Guido, I have always found your very helpful and very kind. As for closeness in general, I have been overwhelmed by the outpouring from people I received when I published my news. You are always welcome at my journal.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean; I hate when I lose touch with any of my j-land friends. I had one go private and never responded to my emails & I never knew why.
ReplyDeleteHope you are enjoying your weekend!
Maria
I have spoken on the phone to one or two people and have made a particulary good friendship with one other journaller. I love this little community of of ours and I find it sad when journallers leave for no given reason. I never trouble myself if I don`t constantly get comments because that`s not what it`s all about really. For me my journal is an outlet and reading others is an enjoyable pastime. :o)
ReplyDeleteSandra xx
I don't throw my toys out of my pram either (that's cute) but it does hurt sometimes just a bit....
ReplyDeleteLinda :)